Giving up the People

I have learned throughout this journey that in order to maintain a healthy and positive lifestyle, sometimes you have to give up the people in your life that are bringing you down and into a negative space. This is a hard concept for some people to grasp and lots of people will have a hard time doing it. It is a difficult thing to do and its definitley not easy, but sometimes the hardest things that you need to do, are the best decisions you need to make, especially if you are on a road to a healthy positive life.
There are certain types of friends or people in your life that you dont need. For example have you ever had a friend that tries to sabatoge every thing you do? Maybe your trying to eat healthy or maybe your trying to quit smoking, and the person knows this yet still offers you the cookie or the ciggarette? Thats a sabatour. Thats someone who doesnt respect what you are trying to do and wants to see you fail, because they cant be in the same place where you are at. You need to get rid of those friends and family that want to and encourage you to fail. What about the friends that always have constant drama and feel the need to bring drag you into their problems. Because you dont have enough of your own life issues you need to be dragged into their problems. These people expect you to take sides, and want your advice and need you to be there on a drop of the dime when they have a new crisis bubbling up, yet the moment you try to express something that is bothering you, they shut down, ignore you and then its back to their drama..its a me me me situation. These friends and family need to be out of your life. They are not supportive, they dont care about you, its a one sided relationship.
Finally there are the people in your life that are just plain negative. These are the people who are always complaining about how crappy their life is, how nothing ever works out for them. If you give them suggestions that can help them, they quickly dismiss them and come up with more excuses as to why it wont help. They are dramatic and are constantly seeking affirmation and compliments from you. They might be constantly drinking, or doing drugs or any other unhealthy habit that you have no interest in being around Maybe they hang out with shady people that you want nothing to do with, or have their priorities screwed on so backwards and then complain when something doesnt go right. They complain they have no money for food but just spent 100 dollars on shoes or concert tickets and then expect you to feel sorry for the woeful mess they've got themselves in. They are dating a person who is so awful and does terrible things, yet refuses to leave them and expects you to be there to listen to all their problems. These people need to be out of your life. How can you move towards a positive and healthy lifestyle, and how can you move and grow successfully in your life when you surround yourself with those that just bring you down? You cant. There is no way to move forward when your stuck with people bringing you backwards.
So how do you stop? My suggestion is just to start to slowly pull yourself away from those people, ease away from it, untill your just not there any more or be straightforward with these people and tell them that their lifestyle and behaviour is not condusive to a healthy lifestyle for you and for that reason, you need to terminate the relationship. Either way, by eliminating these negative people from your life you'll realize how much happier and positive your life can be. I know because I have done this and my life is much better and less stressful without them.